If you are anything like me then you NEED a challenge, you welcome the difficulty of what sometimes seems like a test which you excited about because you understand it will force you to adapt, become stronger and bring out the best in you. We set daily, weekly, yearly goals because you know if you what to achieve the end results it takes time, perseverance, determination, and patients, not to mention BELIEF!
Maybe you are not like me, welcoming the struggles or tomorrow but you still want to reach your own goals that seem so far away.
In this article I’m going to discuss goal setting and how little structures can lead to the goal that’s in the distant future, it's all about the small steps you make regularly enough that make the difference. Doing the things, you don’t necessarily want to but know you have to in order to reach that goal, this is DISCIPLINE!
Firstly, let’s understand what makes us human and what separates us from the rest of the known earth species that share this beautiful planted and experience with us.
What makes us superior and unique is our fascination to explore areas of curiosity, the unknown and to take tremendous risks, sometimes with letting security or promise of a reward. As a race we can adapt so fast it is mind-blowing, the physical and mental stresses the human body can withstand, respond and develop from is why I am so obsessed with learning from the challenges to come. BUT WHY, it’s because I am on a quest to reach places and achieve what was once thought to be impossible, we all have these desires and urges, we get immense satisfaction and an overwhelming feeling of purpose when we prove that we can do something against all odds, from hard work, shire will and belief.
WE ALL are gifted with the ability to break boundaries mentally and physically, we can achieve whatever we believe, our thoughts become things, we manifest ideas and visions when focusing so strongly on them but obviously within the laws of physics and our genetic limitations, even then I am still not totally convinced, I honestly believe that anything is POSSIBLE, anything!
The problem is that we are in constant battle of positive and negative thoughts throughout each day, it’s a war of push vs pull, ups, and downs, but it's no different to everything around us, on this planet and the planet itself, the positive expanding force of the universe that continues to grow and the negative gravitational force pulling back, trying to collapse everything we know back into one space.
We can be our own best friend or our own worst enemy! We must choose the one that will propel us forward and make that the greater force, we must excel our positive thinking and our responsive actions. The speed of implantation is how we progress and how we change is how we grow, if we want to change our life, external look, or even change the world, we first have to CHANGE OURSELF, it starts inside.
The person staring back at us can either make us better or break us to become worst, our ego vs our super ego. We are in more control over our own projected thoughts than any other capability we think we have control over, we need to set a positive mind in order to deliver a positive outcome. We must believe in our capabilities, reprogram our mind, repeat affirmations daily to be in a constant state of awareness and the positive mindset needed to take on the curve balls thrown our way.
HE WHO SAYS HE CAN AND HE WHO SAYS HE CAN'T ARE BOTH USUALLY RIGHT!
Firstly, Before we set a goal that is not yet within our reach, we must truly believe in our ability to achieve it, otherwise, we are giving up before we start, we are losing the battle before the war.
We must learn to overcome any mental obstacles before we meet the physical ones, so when we are placed in physical struggle our mind will have the strength to command and carry us through.
Secondly, we need to view our end goal, our destination from the position we are looking at it from. We need to analyze how far we are from our goals in order to see the steps we need to take to reach it. We need to be aware and accept the obstacles we may face when taking each step in order to overcome them and move forward on to the next step with no set back physically, mentally or emotionally.
We need to be realistic about the time scale to how long it may take and what could potentially delay the time scale. By understanding what is in our control and what is not in our control, so we must not beat ourselves up about possible setbacks or halts. By understanding the obstacles that may come into our path along the way will enable us to be prepared in advance to limit any delays we have no control over, a backup plan is useful!
I often describe pursuing and achieving a goal like a journey in a car reaching the destination we set out too. Along the way the things we can control are; leaving early enough to make sure the risk of traffic is low, making sure the car is in good condition to make the journey with no breakdowns, checking the oil, the water, and tire pressure, knowing the directions, using a map or a sat navigation device and making minimum stops and for as little time stopped as possible. These are a few things we are in control over and providing the checklist is met then the journey will have the least amount of controlled standstills.
Obviously, we can’t control traffic, breaking down, the weather, etc, which can play a role in the delay, also we can’t control a sapric busy family lifestyle, work last minute commitments, unexpected financial payments, becoming ill, injured, etc but we can control our MINDSET. Being prepared for the day ahead, preparing our meals, making time for the gym, choosing a time the gym is not too busy when we can, making sure the program we will deliver our results, potentially seeking advice or guidance, hiring a personal trainer or coach.
What we do know is every time we stop, deviate from the route or stand still for whatever reason, whether that be the ones we can control and the ones we are not in control of, our journey that should take 3 hours (driving a car) or 12-16 weeks (dieting for an event or end goal) is now going to be delayed and take longer. Most people give up at the point where goals are accepted but not achieved.
It really is as simple as that when setting goals, any goals, above I mentioned fitness related because that is the topic here, but you can apply this way of thinking to any other goal. You can see when compared to a different situation of what we have control over and what we don’t that we must take control and stop making excuses!
Most people are uncertain about what their short term or long term goals are so they end up drifting through life or going in circles, feeling like they not achieving any distance forward, unsatisfied, lack of purpose, these are all unhealthy feelings that trigger emotions we don’t want or need, this is why setting goals is so important. You cannot make progress if you don’t know where you want to go, you need a destination to work towards, then you have a purpose for each day.
PUT IT IN WRITING
Here are a few great tools that have helped me in the past and is still helping me today, in fact as I’m writing this article, I’m reminding myself and reassuring myself of what I want to achieve and what I need to do to get there.
Go somewhere quiet, where you at peace, the library, the mountain, the beach, wherever you like to go. Clear your mind from distraction, try not to let any thoughts come into your consciousness which is harder than you think, ask yourself, “what is it I truly want achieve”, then think DIG DEEP, vertical thinking, focus on that, that is the goal, don’t get distracted by what ifs, the whys and don’ts. Write it down as a question at the top of a piece of paper, I suggest writing it down because most people work better absorbing information by writing it and rereading it, over just saying or thinking it. Underneath the question right down at least 20 answers that will need to be in place to help you achieve that goal everything you think you will need to do to get to that top position.
These are your first goals and tasks daily that you need to make sure are in place, list them in order of priority and start implanting at least one of these small goals/tasks each day. Understand that in order to achieve that end goal, all the smaller goals need to be achieved. This will keep you busy and focused on your end goal each day, you will have a purpose and feel satisfied every evening going to bed if you stick to your commitment towards the future goal.
I honestly believe that achieving what we what in life is all about staying positive even in negative situations or circumstances. Life is tough for sure, it is for us all, some more than others. It’s all sunshine and rainbows, it is not always going to go our way, there will be bumps in the road and we will feel like giving up from time to time but we must not let it hold us back and stop us from what we truly want and rightfully deserve.
We have to be realistic and accept the boundaries and limitations that are not in our control but at the same time we must DREAM BIG, believe in ourselves. What we deeply want always come to our thoughts and tries to be seen through our bodies. We can lie to those around us but we can’t lie to ourselves. Don’t let your biggest regret you have be that you didn’t TAKE ACTION, actin on the small goals daily that you knew were needed to achieve your dream goal.
If this is an area of which you are not strong on, self believe and self-esteem, then acknowledge it, understand it take action on it and work to improve it (this could be one of the smaller goals you need to reach the next). Ultimately to reach that peak goal we must believe in order to achieve.
Another important part of goal setting is not letting other people that care little for you or about you dictate your decisions and potential future. My advice is either block out any form of negativity, doubt and disbelieve, which is hard to do, believe me I know or use it as a powerful tool to fuel you on more and prove them wrong, but without coming across arrogant, cocky or with a negative attitude, because what we give is what we receive, instead adopt a confident presence in your pursuit as you work in silence.
I am a big believer in learning from people above, people that have a track record, understand how to achieve the results I want, that are willing to teach me or provide me with the necessary material and tools I need to go to work. Therefore, I INVEST time and finances in my coaches, I have several for each area I need improvement on. Bodybuilding coach, posing coach, stretching and yoga coach, therapy coach, wealth coach, business coach, life coach. All areas need improvement still, but I can assure you, these areas are improving FASTER than they ever did before I teamed up.
ALONE WE CAN BE STRONG BUT TOGETHER LIMITLESS.
Let somebody else take 10 years to figure something out, you master it in a matter of months, by modelling yourself and applying the instructions they have set you to help you grow.
These are a few goal setting strategies that have helped me progress and reach the level of success I have today and I am still using them to achieve my success tomorrow.
Now I am helping you, so help yourself too by applying these methods above, you WILL achieve your goals.
Remember to give yourself credit when its due, for even reading this, you have sacrificed your time to improve yourself which is more than many others do and most probably more than you once did. Credit your hard work, effort, your desire and your belief, reward yourself with positive energy. Don’t focus on the negatives, that’s what tends to hold us all back, stay positive, focused, determined, willing, driven, confident, happy and moving forward towards your personal goals.
I hope this article has helped you in any way, it’s really helped me writing it and reminded me about setting my own ambitious goals, excited to TAKE ACTION and feeling positive about achieving them.
If you would like any more help or advice then CONTACT ME and I will get back to you as soon as I can.
When I first started out, I just wanted to train to look good. The more I lifted the more I enjoyed the actual Physical aspect and challenge. Even today, although I have competitive goals, the training and the challenge of pushing myself are what attract me to bodybuilding the most!
I’m going to throw this in there now so we are all on the same level, squatting, leg pressing, deadlifting, rowing, pressing, dipping style exercises are great movements that will put the most amount of stress on your body. These movements are what your workout plan should be based around for an increase in strength, mass, and testosterone.
I am sat on a flight back to Dubai after a surprise vacation for my 33rd birthday, which was a gift from my wife. We have spent 4 days in the Maldives, which is a dream destination, it was so beautiful, so picturesque. What a place to reflect on the year that has passed, plan and get excited about the year to come, whilst appreciating the now, where we are, what got us to this point and the position we are blessed to be in. We travel more than most and we have been fortunate enough to visit some incredible places in the world and each time we have we have returned with more value, respect, and awareness of the world we live in.
What I have seen more than ever is that most people see a pipe dream when it comes to their goals, they want to look like that guy or that girl, they want the end result but they don't want to do what it takes to get there or maybe it’s that they don't understand what it takes. "Everybody wants to go to heaven but no one is willing to die"!